Caring for someone you love is rewarding but also has its challenges. Maintaining your day-to-day responsibilities such as work and looking after family members, finding time for yourself and knowing when and how to ask for help are all challenges you might face as a carer. Keep reading for some helpful hints on how to provide your loved one support and how to take care of you.

Being a carer

What does it mean to be a carer?

Carers are people who provide care and support to people who have a chronic condition, disability, mental illness, terminal illness, an alcohol or drug issue or who are aged.

The term carer can seem quite formal, but the relationship between you and the person you care for doesn’t need to be. A carer is usually a family member or friend of the person to whom they are offering support.

What is my role as a carer?

While there are no rules around the type and amount of support you need to provide as a carer, there are certain things you may do when caring for someone with a chronic condition. This could include helping with daily activities, management of medications, organising and attending appointments and offering emotional and social support.

How to offer support

Good communication is key. It’s important that you and the person you care for are able to have open, two-way communication. This includes agreeing on how to work together so the person you care for feels comfortable asking for help when they need it and saying no when they don’t. If you and the other person have known each other for some time, this may come easier for you. If it’s a newer relationship, it may take a bit more time and to develop good communication and create a space where you can trust one another.

There are also practical ways you can offer someone support, including:

Become knowledgeable on their condition and treatment
Ask questions to help you get a better understanding of what they are going through
Attend doctor appointments with them
Offer your support and let them decide when and how it can be provided
Be aware of the physical and psychological effects their condition may have on them
Check in with them regularly, even if they seem OK

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Taking care of you

Your own wellbeing matters

The support you provide as a carer is important, but don’t forget to take care of your own health and wellbeing. Taking care of you will help you have the energy you need for your role as a carer and enable you to lead a more balanced and healthy life.

Here are some ways you can take care of you, while still providing care for your loved one.

Continue to engage in activities other than your caring role

Take regular breaks from your role as a carer

Carve out time every day to do something for yourself

Maintain your general wellbeing by exercising regularly, getting enough sleep and eating a balanced diet

Practice relaxation techniques such as yoga, tai chi, deep breathing and mindfulness

Carers need support too

Carers often don’t seek help for themselves as they are too involved caring for their loved one. As a carer, it’s crucial that you look after your emotional needs. While friends and family can offer significant help, sometimes it may be beneficial to speak with a healthcare professional such as a counsellor. A trained healthcare professional can help by suggesting strategies to keep communication channels open, managing your relationships, and balance your caring role with your day-to-day life. If you think speaking to a counsellor might be useful, start by speaking with your GP.